If only I had a dollar for every time I was asked this question, I’d be rich. Listen up, parents: we don’t have rights. Yep, we do not have rights as parents to see our children.
Here’s the thing: our children have rights. Yes, children have rights and parents have responsibilities under the Family Law Act. Specifically, children have the right to a meaningful relationship with both parents WHEN IT IS SAFE TO DO SO.
I wrote that safety bit in capitals because it is so important. If the other parent is withholding the children from you: what are they alleging? Pick from the following: problematic drug use, problematic alcohol use, violence, coercion, mental illness or maybe another safety issue. Are you a risk to your own children?
I’m not saying you are not safe, but if the other parent is alleging that the children are not safe with you, then have an honest think about your behaviour. What do you think your children are feeling when you are angry, drunk, stoned or mouthing off about their other parent? Is your behaviour scary for your child? If you were a child and your parent acted like you’re acting, would you be scared? Would you want to spend time with you?
Our children deserve to feel safe and BE safe. Are you that safe person for your child? Is your home safe?
Focus on what is in your children’s best interests by thinking about what you can do as a family to spend enjoyable time together, making happy memories.
If you can’t come to agreement with the otehr parent, talk to a mediator about getting an agreed parenting plan.
